I’ve imagined that my return to blogging would trigger the comedic inspiration that got me through the majority of my early blogging years. I have found, however, that while I search out the spark that will reignite my lower frontal lobes, the more serious thoughts need to be explored and given breath. Inspiration is a fickle mistress, yet she must be obeyed no matter how or when she delivers her gift.
In the spirit of true random inspiration, today’s post comes to you courtesy of a haircut. Or, as I like to refer to it – an unfaircut.
I lowered myself into the chair and my new random barber draped her cape across me and asked – “So what are we doing today?”
My words were clear – “Just a number 3 around the back and sides please, square it off and chop up the top. I like to wear it messy.”
With that, the barber grabbed her tools and gave me my haircut. In the aftermath, inspiration struck.
It’s not bad – it’s just not what I asked for.
There are a few people who sprang to mind as this inspiration flowed through me. People who are dealing with far more serious matters than my haircut. Having lived my life as a person who rarely spoke up about anything, I know how difficult it can be to make sure that your voice is heard, but it is one of the greatest things a human being can master. To be able to express ourselves honestly and openly, with the understanding that others may not see things the same way or have the same expectations as you can be a very difficult skill to acquire and practice. It is also one of the most important.
In my case, I was always worried about coming across as combative or aggressive when I tried to speak assertively. I only know how this has affected the way I have interacted with people; softening the expression of my opinions and expectations to a point where they were either too unclear to be respected or were not mentioned at all. The consequences of this approach have taken years to rectify, and I still struggle at times to reiterate or clarify my position if I am being misunderstood. For me, this is an aspect of my personality that I’ll continue to strengthen.
For the people I think of – and anyone else who experiences similar difficulty expressing themselves and having their voice heard:
Please, remember that you deserve to be listened to. Your needs are as valid as anyone else’s and your time is valuable. Please, remember that you are worthy of respect and acknowledgement. Please, speak up. Your voice is important and your input is vital to your success and enjoyment. Just because some people may disagree or think differently about certain things, do not feel that you shouldn’t express yourself. Surround yourself with people who hear you, even if they disagree with you.
Use your words. Otherwise you may end up with something worse than the simple unfaircut I received today.